Loneliness ‘Fix’

Being lonely has been the cause of a lot of stupid decisions and mistakes.

For some of us, what takes away loneliness isn't having friends. Friends don't do life with you. Friends don't give affection. Friends don't share life goals and collaborate together working on those goals. Friends have their own lives with their own people. Doing social events or coffee chats don't take away loneliness.

Now days, what protects me from making stupid decisions while being lonely is to

• know the cause of my loneliness

  • which includes what I need but don’t have

• appreciate that the cause of my loneliness, and my not settling for less, are actually valuable and strong parts of who I am

• just accept the loneliness and the void

• don‘t to fill the void with

  • sub-par situationships and relationships

  • addictions

  • bad habits

  • distractions

• Instead, put energy into

  • self-care and home care for healing, growth, personal responsibility, integrity, humility, and reaching life goals

    • maintain structure and routines for sleep, daytime, evenings, exercise, chores, errands, meal prep, growth/learning work

      - go to sleep and get up early (ideally 9 hours)

• be of-service—with boundaries, dignity, class and morals—when having to deal with people in public and at jobs.

• maintain a really close, trusting relationship with God

Do you need coaching? Please contact me. I’d love to help you.